By kenny friedman on Monday, January 11, 2010
Filed Under: freaking out
I recently read a great post from Jill at Baby Rabies about what it means to be a mom to a boy. It made me think about what it would be like to be a dad to a girl...because there is a 50/50 chance of that happening to me. But since we don't know what we're having it made me think broader to what is it like to be a dad, and that made me think of what I think a good dad is.
A lot of people tell me that I'm going to be a great dad...I really appreciate the comments. I said before that I probably owe a lot of that to my father because he was, and I'm assuming is still, a total ass. At a young age I learned things that make a bad person and tried to do the opposite.
And I did have some great male role models...and had role models of great dads of friends...but there is a subtle difference there that left me with not truly understanding what a good dad is, if that makes sense.
A quick Google search of "how to be a good dad" will bring a few hits that include things like; start the relationship early, spend time with your children, read to your children and more. I do think all those universal things are important but when I thought of what it takes to be a good dad the answer was...Eggs.
I'm not sure why but I got it into my head that a good dad makes great eggs. I often hear from women that their dads make the best eggs. Or I hear from guys that they learned how to cook eggs from their dad.
It might be a completely irrational thing but that's what I see when I think of a good dad...one that in the morning heats up a pan cracks a couple eggs open and serves his family.
Problem is I freaking hate eggs...can't think of the last time I ate one (as an egg or omelet etc, I do have them in tasty cookies and such)...actually I can't think of any time I ate them.
They were around when I was growing up...rumor is my mom makes some awesome deviled eggs. There were also things like fried matzo around which is kind of a cross between french toast made with matzo and scrambled eggs. I do remember tasting a bit once but I think it was spit out.
So if I can't make good eggs how could I be the good dad I see in my head?
I needed to analyze what an eggs are...yes I actually did this.
When I think of that dad making eggs they are often scrambled. They are often a breakfast food...Saturday and Sunday morning food. They could be cooked for breakfast for dinner nights which are the best meals ever. Eggs can be made fast, they are comfort food and everyone likes them (not everyone.) They can be cooked up late at night if a daughter comes home after being dumped by some boy or for my son who wants to chat about that girl from math class that he saw at the mall and kind of likes but he doesn't know what to say to her.
So what is a good substitue? I think I figured it out...
If you asked me three weeks ago I'd say waffles are the biggest pain in the ass to make...that's because we got a waffle maker for our wedding, five years ago, and only used it twice. I used it once then years later Staci used it. But we never really read the instructions so the waffles were messy, and we never had a good waffle mix so they tasted like Eggos. The waffle maker got put into storage.
Then a few weeks ago we had some friends over for brunch and I was determined to use the waffle maker. I found a mix that looked great...it's called Kodiak Cakes. Looked up the waffle make manual online and gave it one last try. I thought they were awesome. So good.
And they fit all the criteria that I saw in eggs. They are a breakfast food, they can be made any time, they are fast and easy to make. They are a vital part of breakfast for dinner, and everyone loves them. I can make them late night for my daughter if that jackass dumps her or for my son if he needs to chat about that girl from math class that he likes.
Now that waffles are my egg I want to make them mine...I want to figure out a recipe so I can make them from scratch, preferably eggless. I have already been searching recipes and figuring ways to Frankenstein them to make them my own.
So I'm going to add that to my to do list: be a great husband, be an awesome dad and make the best freaking waffles ever.