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The story is about how we got putting Miloh to sleep.
It starts with with an earlier post called Sweet Child O Mine. A post that talks about how I started going insane while trying to put him to sleep when he was a month old.
Once we got over that hump it was smooth sailing. With the help of a twitter mom (thanks Mae) we came up with a great routine of bath, bottle then sleep, while we switched who put him to sleep every other night.
Then something would happen...we'd bath him, give him the bottle, comfort him until a bit sleepy and then put him in his bed. The second the he hit the mattress he would start wailing...it wasn't fun...not at all.
Staci and I had theories...mine was teething while Staci thought some sickness because his temp was a bit high.
He took a trip to the doctor...Staci brought him because he isn't able to drive yet. The doctor said he was in good health and that while he was about to start cutting a tooth it probably wasn't something he was feeling yet.
She did say that if we wanted to try Cry it Out we could...she had done it with both her kids and it worked quite well. I should mention that Staci had read a lot on sleep training. When Miloh got all fussy we started to try extinction (which just doesn't sound too good.)
The doc said that if we wanted to do Cry it Out it was good we brought him in because we knew he was healthy so we would know he wasn't crying because of a fever etc.
Staci called me and said she wanted to try it...then I told a co-worker who said when she did it she was actually out of town while her husband did it...so she didn't have to worry.
So when I got home I told Staci and she actually said the doc suggested she leave the house...basically what I get out of those suggestions is that basically people think men are callus assholes who don't care if their kids wail for an hour or more. I bet some of these a-hole dads would even make up songs about their kid crying.
Well that night came. I went through our routine and while getting him ready for his bath I sang to him to comfort him. I sang 'Who's gonna cry it out, tonight' in the tune of The Cars' Drive. He seemed to enjoy it quite a bit. After bath and bottle Staci left for Walgreens to pick up some things.
Then I sang him another song to the tune of 'If I only had a Brain.' I had to make up all but the chorus because I forget the words. Once he was sleepy I put him down and left the room...the wailing began...so did the texting.
Staci texted me to ask what was going on...my answer was Miloh was crying. I also asked her to pick me up some Lemonheads and if they were doing the 3 for $3 sale some Mike and Ike's and Jujyfruits also...they were not having the sale.
Then I hopped on Twitter where I got a lot of support from folks...it's also where I may have mentioned that he looked straight into the video monitor and made the slit my throat motion with his hand...that was a lie and I apologize to those I mislead.
More texts came from Staci...the answer was still he was crying...I might have also said he was knitting...that was a lie and I apologize to Staci for misleading her.
After 50 minutes he was asleep...I told Staci and she came home.
It was a tough 50 minutes...but I really felt it was going to be good for him so I turned up the TV and rode it out.
The next night we did a similar routine...this time he was asleep in 13 minutes.
On the third night I was out so Staci put him to sleep...he slept in 10 minutes.
And on the fourth night he went right to sleep.
A lot of people might think it is cruel to do Cry it Out...but for every reason they think it's screwing up Miloh I can probably find a reason their method of sleep is screwing up their kid. I think most sleep methods are valid and have an equal opportunity to screw up a baby as it does to make it thrive...it's whole parenting and figuring what works for you and your child that matters
I've already had folks ask, in a nice way, if I thought that Miloh felt we abandoned him. I don't believe he does, because we haven't. When he wakes in the middle of the night for a bottle we are up and he gets what he needs. In fact I stubbed my toes almost every night for a week running to get him a bottle (there was a swing in the way and I was too sleepy to move it.) I think he knows the difference because he's not in the same frame of mind when he's sleep as when he needs a bottle, changed diaper or to just play. And he's one happy kid.
It pretty much worked well for us...there was a little set back when we took him out of his sleep sack and put him in footy pajamas. We did this because he was pulling the bottom of the sack over his head in an effort to get his foot in his mouth. Now he sleeps better knowing he can get it in his mouth...but he was a little off his game getting used to his new freedom.
Moral of the story is do what you think works best for you as far as sleep. And if you try Cry it Out go to your doctor first to make sure your baby is healthy before doing it...and after the days of crying it out you can Enjoy the Silence.
P.S. two allusions to 80s songs...not too bad.